I can’t believe how narrow-minded and pig-headed some people can be! I am actually quite worked up when I heard that there are people (young, self-righteous and using religion as a blanket to cover their ignorance and narrow-mindedness) who thinks guys who joined Dating Agencies are ALL flirts and up to no good, and that it is a sin to join “such services”.

I have personally profiled and consulted almost two thousand singles during this 3 years at The Dating Loft, and I really like to invite such self-righteous people to come here and interact personally with the singles and found out from them what is their motivating factors for joining dating agencies. Do they do it because they have too much money and do not know where to spend on? Do they do it because they are incoherent flirts who wanted nothing more than to try to bed each woman that they came across?

I really feel injustice on behalf of my male members. I totally agree that there are definitely black sheep around – we had men who called us asking if we provide ‘escort services’ or looking for ‘extra girlfriends’ especially when we first started out. An insistence on face to face profiling will usually suss out such men who are too gutless to even try to meet us. Even if they do come up here and tell us frankly they are already married or are not looking for any serious relationships, we will usually be very up front with them that we are in the business of promoting long term relationships. The membership fee will be the next deterring factor. Which flirt in his right mind would pay a significant amount to try to meet girls through us when they could have easily meet more girls online or in the pubs and bars without much costs involved?

Why paint all men with the same brush, when you are not in their shoes? It is a basic human need to love and be loved and why condem them for taking actions to fulfill this need? Came across too many people who hid behind their supposed faith in God/Gods that he/they will provide the one for them….or it is destiny and fate, one cannot force, should just go with the flow. I am not saying that you should mindlessly go on dates or hurt other people in the process, but at least have the guts to take charge of your own life!

Do not say its all fated or God will provide when all you do is to go home after work and watch TV, hang around the same group of people all the time or when you allow yourself to look like a dog – allow yourself to go fat, ugly, or unlovable with your cynical attitude and prickly shell. No one likes to go near a porcupine, save the pricks for the truly narrow-minded. Remember what loneliness is when you are 50 and sitting in front of TV chewing fat with an old dog for company.

Dating Tip: A closed Mind = A closed Heart = Alone