I read an article on Dr Goh Keng Swee, one of the founding fathers of modern Singapore, and something that he said strike a chord in me. It was not about his formidable intellect or his outstanding contributions to Singapore, but his single-minded pursuit of his second wife, Dr Phua Swee Liang. His wife shared that she had rejected him several times and had asked him why is he so persistent . His reply was: “Faint of heart never gets you the fair maiden”. Of course he did win over the fair maiden and they were together till his death recently.

I can’t help but admire a man with such persistence, dedication and single-mindedness. The saying that “How you do anything is how you do everything.” rings true. For a man who sets high standards for himself in work and do everything to the best of his ability, you don’t expect anything less of him in his personal life. I can’t help but feel a little ashamed at my own nonchalance and take it for granted attitude sometimes….

That is also the reason why women secretly admire strong-willed and determined men. Because such men are usually successful in school, work/career and life. If you are faint of heart, you will not win the fair maiden (or your career or work or business). I have heard countless feedback from women about local men being too timid, lacking in initiative and decisiveness in relationships. On the other side, to all women: give the men a chance to make the decisions and stop trying to control everything.

 Hence, I would like to encourage all men to have the heart of a lion, be courageous and be persistent in your efforts once you have decided that this is the goal you want.  Good Luck!

For the past few days, the girls at The Dating Loft have been stuffing ourselves silly with the goodies we have been receiving from members! On Monday, we received chocolate biscuits from a really sweet member who went to Japan for Holiday and remembered us!

On Tuesday, a really cute member brought us almond cookies and some really yummy almond pastry from Hong Kong! It was almost totally wiped out. And yesterday, we received a BIG hamper of goodies from a member who dedicated it to Sharon! We didn’t care if it’s addressed to her, we just happily dissembled the whole package and devour the goodies. My favourite is the Almond Roca!

Thank you all for the yummy goodies. We truly appreciate it! One Great Dating Tip to be learnt: Bringing a little gift (chocolate or flowers) will brighten up your date’s day and warmed him/her to you!